Joe, a 14 year-old client sat across from me. He is active member of the LDS Church and participates in his Teacher quorum responsibilities. He had originally been charged with two sexual felonies. With a plea bargain he ended up with two misdemeanors. He and a same-age male messaged pictures to each other of their genitalia on Facebook. Using a gaming device, my client later shared these pictures with other male peers at his junior high. His school mates -also members of his Teacher quorum – told on him. The school cop got involved. His behavior was discovered. His parents learned for the first time from the school about Joe’s sexual concerns.
So I began the evaluation…
I’m born that way
During the sexual history I asked about his sexual thoughts and feelings. He explained he has had sexual thoughts and feelings about both same-age males and females. He admitted he had kissed and hugged both-males and females. He explained, “I was born this way. I have attraction to both. There’s nothing wrong with it.” I asked him to explain. He went on to say “I wanted to join the LGBT Club but my parents wouldn’t let me. So I learned all about being bisexual from the LGBT Facebook Page.” (Over a million Facebook fans). I confronted him about being members of both the LDS Church and LGBT Facebook group. He was offended to think he couldn’t do both.
– No one!
If this is true, then
“We would avoid mentioning these unholy terms and these reprehensible practices were it not for the fact that we have a responsibility to the youth of Zion that they be not deceived by those who would call bad good, and black white.” (Spencer W. Kimball Speaks Out on Morality General Conference Oct 1980)
Conscience seared with a hot iron
Joe be locked up for at least one weekend and successfully complete outpatient sex-specific treatment. Using the sexual response to cope with stress is a risk factor for future problems. His view of his illegal behavior being harmless warrants attention. Given his young age, I have hope he can change how sex influences his life.